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Getting Dumped and Ways to Deal With It


Pretty much every woman out there has been left by someone they love. Many times the loved one left without giving a good reason. Women tend to question themselves when this happens. This can be a hurtful experience and you can become bitter, lose confidence, and be less trustful of your next partner. But by doing this it just makes the chances of finding a great guy less likely.

What a lot of women would be surprised to find is that they are not usually at fault when a lover leaves. Men tend to make decisions that are sometimes not logical or based on emotions. It is just a fact of life that men do not think like women. Breaking up with a loved one is never easy, especially when the breakup does not make sense and is not expected, coming out of the blue. But just because a lover left you does not mean you should bow your head and throw in the towel moping around. Men should not determine how a woman feels about herself, they should not be given that power. But many women feel a loss of self worth when they are left.

If you are sick and tired of being hurt and want to regain that power here are a few things you can do.

* You have to first love yourself. This sounds cliché but it is the truth. Having a good self-esteem will be a salve to many of the hurtful things to happen to us emotionally. The better self-esteem you have the easier it will be to get over being left. This will also make you more attractive to other men making it easier to move onto another relationship.

* Don’t fly off the handle. Do not try to get back at him because you have felt jilted, no matter how bad the breakup was. Breaking his windshield, making threatening calls, or breaking his stuff you have will feel like you are getting even but you are not. Do not lose your dignity and pride, as you should take the high road and try to move on peacefully.

* It is probably his issues and not yours. Do not dwell on the problems you think may have caused him to leave because it is more likely he left because of his own issues and not yours.

* Healing takes time. It is going to hurt for a while, as it matters how much you loved him and how long you were in the relationship. The grieving process does take time, so give yourself time to heal emotionally.

* Don’t go at it alone. When you are hurt emotionally you should look for a support system and not do it yourself. Friends and family can be a great support system that will be empathetic to how you feel, as they may have gone through the same thing. Also by being with other people it will make it less likely that you will dwell on your pain.

* Don’t shut yourself in. The worst thing you can do is shut yourself in and dwell on your pain. Go out with friends, take a trip, take up or spend more time on your hobby. Taking your mind off what has happened will help with the healing process. You will also discover that you do not NEED him to have a good time.

* Learn the lesson of the breakup. Behind every traumatic emotional experience we can learn something. If he took you for granted learn that you deserve better and search out that guy who deserves you and what you have to offer.

* Don’t let yourself go
. Do not let your appearance go when you breakup. Keep up your appearance, as it will make you feel more confident and more likely that you will meet another guy. Don’t let him get to you, as the best revenge is moving on and being happy.

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